| Count these words in the email: I = 29 ME = 7 MY = 12 |
| -----Original Message----- From: Darlene Miller [mailto:dmilled23@yahoo.com] Sent: Tuesday, October 30,2077 7:31 PM To: Shirley Sanservino Subject: Response Dear Shirley, It is very sad that my grieving and despair were perceived as my choice not to converse during Ray's final arrangements. I had just lost my best friend, the love of my life, and my future. All the hopes and dreams Ray and I shared were just snatched from me as the foundation of my life came tumbling down. I will not apologize for my despair and grief nor will I apologize for following my husband's wishes. His final wishes were about him and how he wanted his life to be remembered-it was not about me or you, it was about him. Friends and family helped me with the arrangements because I was unable to function. They tried to get your input and Cathy's. It is very sad that their efforts were met with verbal abuse and distain. I am very happy for you that you were able to arrange the service that you wanted with all the fan-fair and prestige. This was not Ray's wish. But I know he would have been happy for you because it is what you needed to do for your grieving. Had I been invited I would have been there to show support for you. It saddens my heart that Ray's life consisted of two distinct disconnected families as was obvious by the lack of participation and closeness that was felt during his last celebration of life. The sadness is due to what we could have all shared about Ray, because I know that is what he would have liked. I am so glad that his Uncle and Aunt were able to make it ---I remember how sad and hurt Ray was when no one came to our wedding. I know he was smiling as he was able to watch all his friends and family show up to say good-bye. It was wonderful to hear his co-workers speak so fondly of him and it was amazing to feel the power of the prayers from people we had just met. Ray was a very special individual full of love and caring. He touched the lives of everyone he met and he had no idea how much he was loved. This last month has been pure hell as I try to glue my foundation back, piece by piece, to some kind of normalcy---if that is even possible. Although I feel his presence all around me as his warmth and love continues to help me and give me strength, I am very aware that I am also alone without the shoulders I have come to rely on. I can still hear his laughter and his corny jokes. It is a great comfort to know he is with me, and him and I will be together again someday. God has chosen to call him home and I still find it very hard to accept . As far as the rest of your letter is concerned: I will follow Ray's wishes but I will do it as I find the strength to deal with it. If this does not agree with your time line it is really not my concern. I know you are grieving as well so I will not try to explain how I feel except to say I am dealing with things as I can. Dee (emphasis added) |







Darlene letter to Judge Stanley OTT explaining why she did not have an attorney and apologizing for not being truthful in his court. |
| NEW!!!!!!!!!!!! Select the following link to a letter Darlene wrote to the judge of Montgomery County, PA Orphans Court |
